Finding Hope After Trauma
A Letter to the Hurting or Hopeless
Have you ever felt completely defeated? Like life has dealt you a bad hand and there isn’t any way to get out of it, so you “shake it off” and push through. I would often experience this as “go to bed and wake up and doing it all again”. In your world (First Responders, Military or Medical Personell), strength is often synonymous with resilience in the face of adversity. But what if true strength lies not in stoicism, but in the courage to embrace vulnerability? Traumatic experiences may be an inevitable part of the job, but it doesn’t mean failure.
Please understand that your bodies are not immune to the effects of trauma. The toll of these events can leave lasting emotional scars which can feel overwhelming, leave you feeling helpless, and even broken. These emotions are valid and normal. It's precisely in these moments of vulnerability that the seeds of resilience are sown. These are the times to show what you’re truly made of: bravery, strength, and wisdom.
Vulnerability is often perceived as a weakness but is in fact a profound source of strength. When you allow yourself to acknowledge and process emotions, you create space for healing and growth. By bravely confronting your vulnerabilities, you can begin the journey towards reclaiming the power in your life.
Do you want to find healing but don’t know where to start? Look for a safe space to be vulnerable. Whether that is with your spouse, a family member, or a support network like Standing Stronger Together, find a space that you feel safe and understood and open up. Intentionally engage. Prioritize learning. Cultivate connection. Embrace hope.
Do not fall prey to the misbelief that you are the only one with these experiences or that you aren’t worthy enough to find healing. You are not replaceable. You are worthy! The first step is always the hardest but most rewarding.
Start now and eventually you’ll look back in awe of the progress you’ve made. I’ll leave you with a quote from a close friend who is battling PTSD; “It’s okay to not be okay. It’s not okay to stay not okay!”.
